Monday, August 24, 2009

A clean hizzy...and just plain, gettin' bizzy!


Wow! So I've totally been slackin' on my own blog. Not sure what I've been up to, other than 1) growing, 2) trying to get my nesting activities organized, and 3) celebrating my birthday! This baby will be popping out in 4 months and baby-prep is in full swing!

One large item on my long to-do list was to organize all of my medical bills, insurance EOBs, and track all of my medical expenditures to date while projecting how much I will need to set aside for the remainder of the year. While I'm hyper-organized anyway, this is an excellent activity that everyone should do, whether you are pregnant or not. Especially today, when the federal healthcare reform issue is on the table (again), it is so important to understand what/how you individually may be affected by these plans. (Most of us may remain unaffected, but still...health care and the way you are billed by your provider and how that translates when an insurance company is involved is a complicated process. I do not claim to understand it fully.)

For example, one of my latest checkups involved an optional blood test at the 16th week of my pregnancy for some development abnormalities. (I think some of these included spinal abnormalities, etc. I can't remember exactly.) While a test like this is optional, it sounded routine, so we decided that I should take it. Well, the bill from the laboratory that processed my test came and this particular test cost $768. I was completely astounded. But I was further astounded to also see my Insurance claim arrive for this test. My test was covered (thankfully), but my insurance carrier covered only $48.50. Yes. $48.50. Forty-eight dollars and 50 cents. Excuse my french but, WTF?

The laboratory accepted that meager payment from my insurance carrier as payment in full. So, I am off the hook for that bill, but where did this $768 dollar figure come from? In my elementary understandings of the ways providers bill, a health service (be it a visit, a test, what have you) costs x amount. Depending on whether or not you have insurance or are on medicare/medicaid, the provider charges you a factor times x. For instance, since I have insurance, I may be charged 1.2x. If I didn't have insurance, I may be charged 1.5x. Someone on medicare might be charged 0.8x. Somehow, this all makes sense in the health providers balance sheet. They have to charge certain patients more to make up for where other patients lack.

Does anyone else out there understand this?  Nesting is in full swing as I've also been trying to tackle other baby related issues such as my baby registry and daycare.  Those are kinda biggies and definitely warrant their own posts.  I have also been cleaning the dog (sorry, Clyde!) out of my house.  Feeling a little on the obsessive/compulsive side about this, but I'm sure it is just my nesting jones coming out and dealing with just the general need to be prepared.  

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Week 20: A pink or blue fate? ...we'll just have to wait...

So this week marks an important milestone in my pregnancy - 20 weeks. Halfway there! My nesting jones has definitely skyrocketed, as the reality of having a baby is truly settling in.

We were comforted by an excellent check-up at the Doc's office and a second Ultrasound. Both Tyler and my Mom accompanied me to the Ultrasound appointment. This was the particular visit where we could find out the sex of the baby!!! But alas - as many of you know, we are waiting. We really want to be surprised and it has been fun speculating so far as to whether it will be a boy or a girl.

Many people like to find out beforehand so they can plan accordingly and be completely ready. We have just decided to throw some caution to the wind and we truly have no preference one way or the other. Since my career is based around planning and detailing spaces and anticipating situations, I love the idea of just being surprised. This is one of nature's true surprises, and I'd like to revel in every moment of it. I also love the idea
of Tyler's first rights and duties as a father to come out of the delivery room to announce to the world about the baby's identity (announcing its name and sex far and wide. Well, at least as far and wide as the waiting room dictates, right?). I think it will be a very special and important moment for him.

Anyway, back to my check-up, the Ultrasound Technician was able to observe a whole gamut of baby development. She told us the baby is about 14 oz. in weight and about the length of a banana. (I don't think I'll ever get used to these food-fetus analogies.) But the heart development looked good (she pointed out the chambers), and she could see the bladder, which indicated that the kidneys are developing properly. We could see the baby's spine and she also measured the cross-section of the baby (I guess, at its belly) which is also a size indicator. All of the limbs were visible, in a
ddition to the baby's face, eyes, ears, etc.! At the point during the exam when she was measuring the baby's thigh bone, she told us to all look away since we are keeping the baby's sex a secret. But I totally noticed that my Mom didn't bother to look away! She was completely intrigued by what we were seeing, and she claims she "...couldn't really tell anything...." I'm suspect, but if she thinks she knows, she will have to keep the secret for four more months!

The other exciting development this week is that I have definitely detected baby movement! It is a very, very strange feeling, and I'm not sure how to describe it. It is kinda like something is in your belly, poking you. Here is a photo of the footprint - does it look like a ballerina's or a soccer player's?

Friday, August 7, 2009

I wasn't thinking - my brain is SHRINKING!

Absentmindedness is a total effect of pregnancy (one of several). I am usually not a forgetful person, but I noticed an increase in my waning memory by the time I was well into my first trimester. I would forget to return phone calls, walk into a room to get something and forget what I was looking for, forget tasks that I meant to complete. OOPS! I normally rely on post-its and little notes to help me navigate through my day, but even those were failing me. I began forgetting to even write down my reminders on my post-its. Uh oh.

Well, I have noticed in the past few weeks that it has gotten worse. I have begun opening the pantry door looking for ice cream, and early last week, I caught myself putting the coffee grinder away in the freezer. Just a couple of nights ago while having a few dinner guests over, I turned on the oven to warm our dessert course, then sat down and immediately forgot my intention. Only 30 minutes later did my friend alert me that my oven was on. Geez.
At the same dinner, this subject of absentmindedness came up and another friend reassured me that it was due to my shrinking brain, which would definitely explain things. Lots of physiological (in addition to mental, emotional, anatomical) changes are occurring in my body due to the incubation of this creature, which is also requiring lots and lots of energy - especially (and apparently), my precious brainpower.

This morning, I noticed only when I got out of the car at my office, that my shrinking brain had struck again: I had put on two different shoes when I left the house this morning. I immediately laughed at myself and shook my head. At least I noticed (it didn't take someone else to point it out to me), and thankfully it was a left shoe AND a right shoe. TGIF!

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Week 19: It takes two to tango, and two to make a mango.

So here at last are some Belly Elevation Pics that some of you have been asking for!

I am in Week 19 of my pregnancy, almost to the halfway point! One of my pregnancy resources says that the baby is now the size of a mango. But I obviously look like I am smuggling a canteloupe. To date my total weight gain is 15 lbs, and boyee, am I feeling it. My belly feels like it is in a constant stretch, and my center of gravity has definitely shifted. My stride has also shortened and I have trouble bending down to pick things up (which is terrible, since I am so clumsy these days!). Generally, I have been feeling well - I definitely have more energy these days!

The photo featured of Tyler and me was taken just a couple of days after we found out our news. (I think I was in my 6th week.) I had taken a home pregnancy test which told me I was pregnant (to my complete shock and astonishment), and that following weekend, we were headed out of town to a wonderful wedding of some close friends. I refrained from some serious imbibing that weekend, but we obviously still enjoyed the event and were celebrating our "secret", known at that time to only me, Tyler and God.

Monday, August 3, 2009

The car deal proves to be wise, since the Vibe is a 'Yota in disguise.


So I'd like to elaborate a little more about our new car and how we went about acquiring it.  We have had it for over 24 hours now and are still super excited about it, and better yet, we are feeling like we got a good deal and price for it.  (2009 Pontiac Vibe, pictured top.  2009 Toyota Matrix, pictured bottom.)

There were a few very important priorities we had in looking for our new car.  First of all, we had a strategy of using the fed's CARS program, so we were looking at new vehicles having a higher combined mpg than the 18 mpg the Jaguar currently gets. Secondly, we needed a vehicle that would accommodate both our dog and our baby on-the-way.  Many of you already know that our dog, Clyde, goes to work with Tyler on a daily basis, so finding a car that would offer separate spaces for both the baby and the dog was important. (Having Clyde and the baby share a backseat and training Clyde not to lick the baby's face was immediately ruled out.  Clyde is a dog, after all.)  Furthermore, babies come with lots of gear so we new that some type of wagon or small SUV would be in order.  Another consideration for us was the overall size of the vehicle, which is also related to fuel economy.  While a small SUV would serve all our needs, we were hung up with the fuel inefficiency these vehicles still get (although, it has been slowly improving in recent years) and we needed a vehicle that would fit in our driveway.  Our downtown home has a driveway that measures 9'-9", requiring us to park vehicles biased to one side in order to comfortably open the car door and walk past the car with gear.  I think a small SUV would fit, but a more narrow wagon would fit better.  All of these priorities considered, we formed a "short" list of cars:  Toyota Prius, Toyota Matrix, Volkswagen Jetta Sportwagen TDI, Hyundai Elantra Touring, Mazda 5, just to name the top few.  These cars not only beat the 18 mpg, they are all fairly fuel efficient and are about the size of car we need now.  

I'll insert here that we would have also considered used cars, but our attempt at cashing in on the CARS credit set that effort aside, as the program applied only to new vehicles.  Furthermore, we realize that our longer term car plan will eventually include a small or medium size SUV or perhaps even a minivan (gasp!), but we decided that for now, the smaller, more fuel efficient vehicle was the way to go.  Tyler will primarily be driving this car (since between the two of us, he does the most driving), so it made sense to have a more fuel efficient vehicle first, then upgrade later as necessary.

A couple of things fell into place to make our car deal a good and affordable one. The dealer offered us a $3,500 trade-in credit for the Jag, and a $3,000 manufacturer's rebate was currently being offered by Pontiac.  Both add up to some serious change, taking $6,500 off the sticker price before haggling.  Now, the manufacturer's rebate was the type of deal that Pontiac offered as a promotion, in order to forego any type of haggling on the part of the buyer.  Their basic attitude was, okay - here is the price, we've slashed it, come buy the car for this sale price, no negotiations necessary.  Thus, it became clear that this rebate lowered the sticker price to x amount, and the dealer was not inclined to lower x amount any more. So, in our first round of negotiations, we set our bottom line at x amount minus $2,000, but then had to walk away since the dealer wasn't even going to entertain moving his bottom line. 

I was a little annoyed that the dealer wouldn't even make a move toward our price.  But then we came around to understanding the purpose of the manufacturer's rebate, so Tyler called the dealer the next morning to talk/negotiate again.  This time, I sat out of the haggling, since sometimes, as the female in the relationship, I admit that I can be the "softie."  Some of you will know what I mean.  Good cop - bad cop.  Tyler went back to the dealer to play hardball.  (I also remembered as a kid hanging out for what seemed like hours in the car dealership when I went with Dad a couple of times when he made his deals.  Most dealerships, I noticed, have playrooms for the little nuggets.  Good idea.)

So, sticker price minus manufacturer's rebate, minus trade-in value brought us to x value.  Then, Tyler decided to take $700 off that price AND ALSO ask for 3 years of oil changes.  (Remember the lessons we learned from Dad?  Oil changes = sweetener.)  The dealer first scoffed, and started talking about how sales and services departments are different, blah blah blah, not sure he could work it out due to accounting issues, blah blah blah.  Tyler held firm and the dealer came back with x price and 3 oil changes.  (Three oil changes does not equal 3 years of oil changes.)  Tyler still wasn't really inclined to budge, so he walked away.  Again.  We decided to try the Pontiac dealership a little further north on the highway.

We spent most of the afternoon trying to work a deal with dealer #2.  We test drove a Matrix that had a smaller engine than the Vibe we were looking for (1.8L vs. 2.4L), which pretty much confirmed that we preferred to have the Vibe 2.4L model, even though it was slightly less fuel efficient than the 1.8L.  The power and pick-up was noticeable different, and we preferred to have the power.  (I drove a Mustang for 12 years...power and pick-up is pretty important to me.)  I personally liked dealer #2.  He was not the typical swarmy sales guy - he was our age, has three kids, was really straightforward.  A nice fellow.  One hang up with him, however, was that he didn't have the model of the car we wanted on the lot, meaning, he would have to bring it in from another dealer.  So, that added a little to his bottom line. I very much appreciated however, that he was willing to work with us.  He was really trying to earn our business.  Amusingly enough, while we were closing in on a deal with this guy, dealer #1 calls Tyler and offers:  x price and 5 oil changes.  I just laughed.  And dealer #1 had the car on his lot that we wanted.  We decided then and there that if dealer #2 couldn't meet our x price (which also included service sweeteners), we would walk.  We came within $500 of making a deal with him. We decided to walk.

So, we ended up accepting dealer #1's offer for our x price and 5 oil changes.  Tyler started to feel a little badly, thinking we were slightly too firm or were even asking too much by sticking to our x price.  But I didn't feel badly at all.  Buying a car is a purely monetary transaction.  It isn't about personality or even loyalty, I think. It is all about the numbers. Those things, like customer service and loyalty can influence a bottom line, but in the end, it is about the cash on the table.  One of the important things I learned in this experience. 

Another important lesson we learned was that you can't be afraid to walk away from a deal.  I think that is a hard thing to learn but I suppose it becomes easier as you age.  Having the confidence to walk away from a deal, I think, is strengthened by research.  Tyler had done tons of research on cars and while we had never bought new or dealt with a car salesmen, he was willing to walk away when our bottom line was not met.  (Hearing Dad's car buying accounts also helped tremendously, of course.)

One last lesson I think actually helps in negotiations is taking into account the current stock of the car model, especially at the local dealers.  This makes sense, right?  If you are interested in buying a particular model and the dealer has several models available, he may be more willing to move down in price in order to decrease his inventory.  This is ultimately why we ruled the Prius out early.  One local Toyota dealer was having a hard time keeping them on his lot.  He told us that he sold his shipment of 8 Priuses last month right off the container.  (He was unimpressive by the way, trying to sell us on all wheel drive when we know we don't need it around here "...it is great in rainstorms...", blah blah blah.)

So finally, I should get around to mentioning something about the title of this particular post.  (I don't intend for every blog to be this long!)  The Pontiac Vibe has the same engine and transmission as the Toyota Matrix.  They are both built on the same platform as the Toyota Corolla, and only the skins of the Matrix and the Vibe differ.  Fit and finish is the same. So, knowing that Pontiac, a GM brand, will be dropped later this year certainly raises suspicions - should we buy a car of a brand that will cease to exist?  What about future trade-in value and maintenance issues and finding replacement parts?  Since the Vibe is a twin to the Matrix, we are willing to hedge this particular risk.  Toyota makes a good car, a reliable one, and fact of the matter is, Toyota has surpassed American cars in quality.  We are betting that this Vibe, a Matrix in disguise, will hold up for several years and be a good car to have.  In the end, we are actually feeling a little better about having purchased an American car.  I mean, okay, so the heart of the Vibe is Japanese (thankfully), but some of our dollars somehow will go to GM.  We, as taxpayers, own GM anyway, right?  Might as well drive a car we've already paid for.

Happy driving and don't forget to buckle up!

Sunday, August 2, 2009

While the Red Sox traded with the Tribe, we traded for a Vibe!



Well, we did it.  We bought a new car!

We have been thinking about a new car purchase for quite a while now, or at least, replacing one of our cars with a newer, more reliable one.  My husband Tyler drives a 2002 Mazda Millenia that has 95k+ miles and I was driving a fancy 2001 Jaguar S-type with 120k+ miles.  Both have had maintenance problems over the past year, encouraging us to consider a replacement. Add in our need for a larger, safe and reliable vehicle in order to accommodate our growing family (not to mention the additional gear that is required by even the smallest of humans) and voila!  Time for some new wheels.

Buying a car is no easy task, especially taking into account that neither my husband nor I have ever, EVER purchased a car (new or used) from a car dealer.  Tyler has purchased used cars in the past directly from a seller, but we have never walked into a big car dealership and tried to negotiate a deal for a car. Knowing that a major car purchase was on the horizon, we actually began researching cars last year, even test driving some, reading Consumer Reports and perusing current print just to increase our general knowledge about vehicles available.  

The way my father purchases new cars serves as the Gold Standard for car buying.  Dad is, quite simply, a master at navigating a car deal - it is an amazing thing.  Over his lifetime, Dad has bought over a dozen brand new cars, most of them from American dealers. And generally  Dad believes in buying new and maintaining a car for its lifetime. Through this diligence, Dad has taken care of cars and kept them running for hundreds of thousands of miles, has incurred little associated maintenance costs, and has gained an incredible value for the cars he has driven.  But on top of this, Dad gets cars for unbelievable prices.  He has a knack - a true talent, really - for getting a bargain on a new car.  He has many amusing stories of his dealings with car salesmen, but in a nutshell, Dad wears these poor men down until they are practically giving him the car. On top of that, Dad always manages to squeeze out a "sweetener" with the deal.  And by "sweetener," I mean a steak dinner for 4 or a couple rounds of golf at a nearby golf course.  Simply, awesome.

So armed with our knowledge and advice from Dad, we decided to car shop this weekend.  We were also prompted by the government's "Cash for Clunkers" program, which provides credit to car buyers for trading in their fuel inefficient vehicles for more efficient ones.  It turns out that the Jag qualifies for the Clunkers program by getting only a combined 18 mpg, and we had decided that between our two vehicles, that was the one with which we should part.  Since the one billion dollars alloted for this program had run out of money in a mere four days, we thought to try to take advantage of the extension of this program ASAP.  

After two days of test driving, dealing, and negotiating, we settled on the 2009 Pontiac Vibe!  

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Out of the Fog and into the Blog!

I decided while I was bored at work today that I should start a blog. I had been thinking about it and had initially thought, "now who would have ANY interest AT ALL in what I have to say?", especially considering the abundance of the social internet sites and blogospheres that are currently out there in the world wide web. Additionally, I don't think I am interesting or entertaining enough to fill a blog spot. Furthermore, I have made no real attempt to subscribe to tweets nor am I a super-active member any social networking site so forming a blog is a kinda a stretch for me, but I do like the idea of getting out of my technological comfort zone and exploring what I, and others, may possibly gain from my blog. Several weeks back, a cousin suggested it, and I thought it might be a fun idea. Plus, you all might have a bored moment or two during your own workdays, during which you can check out my blog, right???

Over the past couple of years, my husband and I have been faced with several "grown-up" decisions:  first there was marriage of course, and then we purchased a house, tackled a major house renovation, and currently we have a child on the way.  Throughout all of these life phases we have found ourselves faced with many decisions - many economic and environmental decisions that naturally impact our way of life and quality of life.  Some of these, I'd like to share, hence the formation of this blog.  

So I hope you enjoy the blog, comment, and view regularly!